Why I’m no longer making yearly goals

Hey Guys! It’s 2018! What’s new?

So, I wanted to talk about the age old tradition of making goals at the start of the year. I mean, in my very first blog post, I wrote all my goals, why they were important and how to keep them. But looking back, I didn’t actually achieve many of them. Instead, I fulfilled things that were completely off my radar, ones I deemed too insignificant to be part of my list, but were the most necessary….

It’s 2018!

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And you’ve been with me on my blogging journey which has been oh so wonderful! I would like to thank each and every one of you who have read or shared any of my posts, you are blessed!

But back to the matter.

It’s a brand new year and it’s usually about this time we have all decided to make a few changes. We map out our goals and the things we plan to do, some with painstaking detail, on spreadsheets, the beginning of diaries etc. It feels good and like you’re really taking control of your life.

So it’s no surprise that in 2017, more than 20% of UK adults (over 30 million and counting) were keen to make a change and vowed to eat better, exercise more and spend less money, according to a YouGov poll.

This year I’m not doing that.

Why you ask? Why don’t you want to make use of this fresh start? 

But the thing is with goals, you tend to develop tunnel vision (definition time!)

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And while goals are inherently good, and a natural result of fresh starts, you can become too focused on them. You don’t want to deviate from the ‘plan’, as anything else seems irrelevant and unnecessary. This exactly what I did in 2017. I was determined to find my purpose. So I ignored some of the great opportunities coming my way that could’ve led me to that. Or could’ve shown me what is not my purpose.

And, yet many of us are aware that the road to greatness is not straightforward. Nor is it entirely clear. Nor is it usually a result of a finely tuned plan that you have managed to follow every step of the way.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. This girl is a pessimist. Why would she discourage us from being organised and from having some kind of action plan. Well the other truth is, if you don’t develop tunnel vision, you will most likely let your goals fall to the wayside. In 2017, one in five people failed to keep to all of their resolutions in just the first week! Life got in the way or you just couldn’t be bothered.

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So, that’s why I’m not doing it anymore. Instead I’ll be focusing on improving myself in general. This means leaning towards opportunities and experiences that will enrich my life and not necessarily part of a master plan. And this can be just as effective as having a list of goals.

For example, I recently went to BGBC’s  second Dope Discussions event at the Houses of Parliament in Westminster.

It was so revolutionary to see over 70 black women in a historically white-only space, come together to talk about black outrage, black power and black girl-magic. I was in awe of all the women who had their own businesses and doing amazing things in their individual spheres. So, instead of making a goal to meet more people, say, I was doing much more by partaking in a movement that celebrated the strength of black women.

My lack of goal, but more of an overall intention, led me to book my tickets and go along. As a result, I was ultimately inspired to do more and be more.

After that I booked tickets for more events as well as decided to write a blog on my experiences. So, my general commitment to self-improvement has created a snow-ball effect in my life. Something which also happened last year, but I was too tunnel-visioned to see it.

So this year, I urge you all to open your minds. Those goals you’ve written down already, that’s great, but allow them to mould and manifest into different things during the year.

Let your journey and purpose be more than ticking off a box, but a fulfilling experience that allows true growth.

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